What should you say to comfort a mourner?
The first law in the code of Jewish law is to just be silent when visiting… and only speak if they invite you to.
Your silence speaks volumes. It shares that you are present and that you are here for them and that you are not crowding them with your agendas or thoughts rather clearing yourself to receive whatever they are up to sharing, if they choose to.
That is true comfort.
Rabbi Mendel (Menachem) Bluming of Potomac, Maryland