The Torah in Bamidbar chapter 30 speaks about the father’s central role in annulling his daughter’s vows.
Every law in the Torah has a deeper significance and message for us in our conversation between G-d and each of us studying the Torah.
Our children make vows when they encounter disappointment and shame, mistakes and blunders. They promise themselves to not try again, to not be vulnerable again. To not open up to a relationship again after they have been burned. To not speak up in a crowd after they have been ridiculed…
It is our job to annul those vows of our children and to teach them that they can reach higher and that they are not limited by their past mistakes or by other’s perceptions of them.
Annulling these vows is the central calling of a parent for their children.
Mendel (Menachem) Bluming taken from the teachings of the Alter Rebbe